Simple Living Room Decorating

When it comes to decorating your home the main focus should be the living room. The living room is the main gathering area and therefore the highlight of every home. Your goal should be to want your living room to be accepting of visitors and not too stand off-ish. This is where friends and family come to socialize and enjoy each others company. Why not make it a comfortable and inviting living room.

The first thing to consider when beginning such a project is the amount of natural lighting and the atmosphere you would like to create with the color of the walls. If you would like a soothing and relaxing atmosphere a darker tone would be suitable. Whereas if you would prefer a more bright and lively atmosphere a light or vibrant tone will do wonders.

Now take a step back and try to picture where you would like to see the furniture. Look at your walls and choose a pattern or color or even wood type that coordinates well with the color or colors you’ve chosen. Try to picture a seating area which forces people to face each other. This way it creates a scene that encourages every one to interact and enjoy each others company more. When everything is simply facing the television, for example, the room becomes simply a small theater full of zombies and couch potatoes.

Tables and lighting should be your next concern. I for one prefer to have one kind of table or another readily available from nearly every seat in the room. As well as personal lighting. This way every one can be as comfortable as they wish. Not everybody can go this route and they don’t have to. The perfect placement of just a couple pieces can make all the difference in the world.

Once you have all of the major components in place it is time to really have fun. It is time to add your special personal touch with various decorations throughout the room. For the walls you can hang pictures, sconces, trophies, or any number of available wall hangings. You can now also add some little trinkets, figurines, bowls, or any number of other decorative items. Just remember, as in most scenarios, less is more. Try to hold off from having too many items around because then it begins to look cluttered. So keep it simple and you’ll be much happier with the overall appearance and flow of your now newly decorated living room. Enjoy!

The Art of Home Staging

Staging is the art of using marketing and decorating techniques to create an environment that buyers can aspire to. “If I buy this house, I can live like this.” Stagers use the art of “positioning” to create several “emotional connection points” throughout the home so that when a buyer steps into the house they “feel home.” “This is it.” “This is the one.” What does feeling home look like? For Home Stagers it’s a combination of eight elements analyzed in each room in order to create a lasting impression for the home buyer:

1. First Impressions – Room by room, we will walk through and take note of our first impressions, what grabs us, what glares at us and what gives to us a feeling of home?

2. Eliminating Clutter – The packing starts now as we pack away a good percentage of everything in the room in order to create a more clean, open and spacious feel.

3. Emphasizing the Positive – While Downplaying the Negative – Finding your beautiful focal points, we will emphasize what we love about the room and hide or distract the negative aspects of the rooms.

4. Lighten Up – Focusing on lighting and color, we will make each room into a bright, warm and inviting space that buyers can respond to.

5. Home Buyers Appeal – In order for a buyer to “feel home” they need not be reminded of this being your home. We’ll depersonalize the space while retaining the warmth and fun of photos.

6. Odor free/Cleaning/Repairs – The dirty work speaks for itself but is many times overlooked because you’ve lived here for so long. Let’s get rid of the buyer’s mental “repair list” by doing it ourselves.

7. Modernizing – Updating your style and building simple accessories out of what you already have to create clean lines and form. In some cases, we’ll recommend purchases as valuable “investments” in the staging process.

8. “Emotional Connection Points” – Creating the “Wow Factor”. This is the fun part and is a huge focus of our positioning strategy. We’ll show you how to build in these subtleties in order to make the buyers subconsciously desire to live here and “feel home”. The “emotional connection points” are where marketing strategy really comes in to play

You are eight critical steps away from selling your home quickly and for more money. The process is started in the consultation by having the seller put on “buyers eyes” as a first step in transforming their home into what home buyers will desire and buy.

Oil Pulling In A Nutshell

You might have heard about oil pulling at least once or twice and also you may not be much aware about this particular process. There will be a lot to say about oil pulling and its natural healing power for many ailments like blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, eczema, asthma, migraine, arthritis and more.

Oil Pulling is a very simple process which has to be done as the first thing in the morning after brushing your teeth but before eating or drinking anything. Of course, it is with some kind of oil, all types of oil are not advised for oil pulling. Studies say that sun flower and sesame oil would be very effective. As lots of people have got good results with this, you may also try it out.

First thing in the morning just after brushing your teeth but before eating or drinking anything, means your stomach must be empty to do oil pulling. Take one table spoon oil [sesame or sun flower] into your mouth. Find a good place to sit properly, close your eyes and stay away from all disturbances, slowly move the oil between your teeth, swish, pull and suck the oil through your teeth, do it very slowly as it would be quite hard at the beginning. Just continue this process for 15 to 20 minutes, now you will feel that the oil is turning thin and it helps you to move it so easily. Your mouth will get full after 20 to 25 minutes if you do it properly. Now it is the time for you to spit the oil out. See the color of the oil, it will be pure white. If it is yellowish, then you haven’t done it long enough. Clean your mouth once again and also clean the wash tub properly as the oil contains millions of germs and bacteria. You are allowed to take your break fast after 10 more minutes; you may need to take one or two glasses of water just after the oil pulling

This oil pulls out all mucous, germs, bacteria and toxins from your body through saliva. Ayurvedic treatment says that the mucous [“Kabham” in Ayurveda] is an unwanted thing that must be removed from your body. You can do oil pulling 2 or 3 times a day based on your health condition or if you need a fast result. But make sure that you do it in an empty stomach. Wait 4 to 5 hours after meal, 1 or 2 hours after drink. Do not do it before 2 hours if you have taken fruit juice or any kind of thick beverage.

Do not swallow the oil while swishing because it contains germs and toxins. Do not get worried if you swallow a few drops, nothing will go wrong. Do not stop oil pulling if your symptoms get aggravated, just continue another few more days and see. Stop the oil pulling for few days if your symptoms get worse and continue after few days. Give short breaks in between and you could come to a normal process within a short period of time.

Food Riots and the Race for Land

Overpopulation and a Looming Food Crisis

The price of food and resources are currently more than what the average Jo feels comfortable with and they are about to go higher as the population soars. Already 7 billion humans will have to fight for the dwindling stocks as scientists race to create more artificial ways of feeding the masses. With fish declining and weather predictions against agriculture the future is already bleak. While we in Australia and most other western nations can comfortable go to the supermarket and get produce it means that few people are worried about what will happen in the very near future when the tables are turned.

Already countries like China, for example, are investing heavily in Australian agricultural lands because the powers that be are looking to the future. Good land, good water supplies and easily accessible resources are attractive incentives for foreign investment companies looking to replace their own now arid lands as desertification is wiping out much of their productivity. That may mean that Australians will be buying from these Companies and paying higher prices for what may well be dwindling supplies.

If this country, for instance, has to export most of what it grows to foreign shores there will be little left for local supermarkets and consumers. Our food security will then be non-existent or at best greatly stressed. There are always people at the top making a fortune.

By looking ahead a few short years it has given many entrepreneurs an exciting glimmer of where they will be when things fall apart for the rest of us. Is there a way out and should we be securing our own agricultural land   in  Australian hands before the problem is unresolvable?

This is a problem that many countries should be addressing while the so-called free trade agreements may be tipped too far against us.

The  Elephant  that Has Escaped Untouched

Overpopulation is the  elephant   in   the   room  and it is obvious that most of the big CEO’s, with their million dollars a year contracts, don’t care about it. They just want money. The more people they have to use their services and goods the better off they see themselves. They don’t appear to worry if millions of people will soon die from starvation or in the riots that will surely follow food shortages when they come.

Many wars have started as a result of food and water shortages. Whosoever controls these resources will control the world when things get really tough. There are people dying today in their thousands because they have stripped their lands bare of soil and have overpopulated them to the extent that there is now no room.

Mass Migration has already Started

Great mobs are fleeing in their thousands while forcing themselves on other countries to let them in and this is nothing to what is coming. Illegal migrants are arriving in western countries by any means possible and many are hopping on unseaworthy boats, some drowning at sea, to escape the life they have unwittingly created for themselves. So is that a reasonable excuse to allow them to do the same to the rest of the world?

It’s time to take stock and to deal with the stupidity from which we will never escape if and when it comes about.

Gastronomical Torquay

Torquay holidays offer its travellers a huge list of attractions along with some great restaurants which do play an important role on anyone’s holidays. Torquay is one of the most popular holiday destinations of the world, which gained popularity as a lovely seaside town with many holiday cottages. Due to abundant sunshine all through the year, more and more tourists visit this place. You can plan your Torquay holidays in summer with your family. Torquay holidays with a real continental atmosphere, sun kissed beaches and the lovely water front offer a vibrant life full of restaurants, bars and cafes. The holiday cottages are located   in  picturesque setting that offer serene atmosphere to families wanting to enjoy their Torquay holidays to the fullest. Here are some of the restaurants to enjoy lip smacking dishes during your holidays to Torquay.

 The   Room   in  the  Elephant 

 The   Room   in  the  Elephant  restaurant is situated close to the holiday cottages and offers fine dining experience with breathtaking views of Torquay due to its perfect location. You should not leave this wonderful restaurant without tasting the locally sourced seafood. It is now recognized as one of the most stylish restaurants  in  Devon.

Steps Bistro

You can make your Torquay holidays just perfect by visiting this incredible restaurant called, Steps Bistro. It offers a wide variety of drinks and wines to give your evening a perfect start. Adventurous diners can experience a culinary experience of their choice and the chefs are always busy concentrating on the freshly cooked food. They now have the names of locally produced wines from the Devon’s Vineyards on their list. With generous portions, they bring to you separate menus for lunch and dinner along with some scrumptious vegetarian dishes.

The Orchid

This is the 26 cover AC restaurant and has 3AA Rosettes under its belt. It not only offers breath taking views, but also offers lip smacking continental dishes with buffet and A La Carte options. The prices are not on the higher side which makes it a popular joint amongst holidaymakers. Since the restaurant is situated near the holiday cottages and is a must-visit during your holidays.

Langtry’s Restaurant

Langtry offers pure luxury with a romantic A la Carte spread, where you will get exclusive innovative choices of local specialties. The restaurant uses the best and the finest local ingredients which are sure to please even the most discerning diner. You and your family can enjoy a fine meal at this restaurant.

Also not to be missed are the award winning Fish and Chip shops and various other eating joints that offer culinary journey around the world- from Moroccan, Thai, Mexican, Chinese, Indian, French and Italian. So when you choose the holiday cottages you will be making sure you have a great place to stay for your Torquay holidays.

How Does Hotwifing Enhance a Relationship?

At first glance, it would seem ‘obvious’ that hotwifing or cuckolding — where a woman has sex with men other than her husband, but with her husband’s knowledge, consent and often at his urging — would be disastrous for any marriage, no matter how strong.

After all, there probably isn’t a single one of us who hasn’t experienced the damage infidelity can do, either first hand or to the relationships of friends and family.

But that analysis misses the crucial difference: hotwifing and cuckolding is not the same as infidelity because the husband knows about it and approves.

And that’s the difference that makes all the difference in the world.

The reasons men are so often drawn to encouraging their wives to become hotwives is complex, but it really boils down to biology and the way they’re made. In other words, they don’t choose their fantasy: their DNA chooses it for them.

And it’s this factor most women miss when their man asks them to indulge them in the fantasy.

Which is a shame, because if couples approach it in the right way, then hotwiving can dramatically improve and enhance a marriage.

Here are three reasons why this is:

1. Better Communication.

Most couples don’t communicate, not at any deep or meaningful level. But one of the fundamentals of successful hotwiving is talking to each other.

Not only do you need to establish the ‘ground rules’, but for most men it’s imperative their wives share the explicit details of their extra-marital sexual encounters.

By sticking to these very important rules, it vitally forces couples to communicate more effectively about other things, too. This can only be good for a relationship.

2. Better Sex for Her.

Let’s face it, one of the problems with every relationship is sex tends to get boring and routine. We all feel it… but no one wants to talk about it. It’s the elephant in the room.

But hotwiving can change all that. Because the wife is having sex with new or infrequent partners, and biology dictates that’s going to be hot, exciting and adventurous sex. And the ‘naughtiness’ of the whole situation only adds to the heat, especially if the man is present or listening from the next room.

3. Better Sex for Him

Many women worry when their men bring up the subject of hotwiving that the man is simply doing it as a roundabout way to getting ‘permission’ to sleep with other women.

While I suppose this might be true occasionally, the reality is the reason is nothing of the sort (one of the perennial complaints of women who go to “swingers’ parties” with their men is it can be hard for them to get a partner — because so many of the men really just want to watch their wives having sex with other men. This is why the often invite single men to these parties — so the husbands have something to watch!).

No, the men get a real thrill out of seeing or hearing their wives “perform” and when they get them back into their own bed, they can’t wait to make love to them — and the sex is explosive, because she will often talk dirty to him about her new lover as he’s making love to her.

So everyone wins, so long as they inform themselves first so they can avoid the pitfalls.

Why Would I Talk About Elephants?

You will discover the two great reasons to think about  elephants  as you read on

First up what can we learn from “Mr Shuffles” the newborn baby  elephant  that after 4 days of his mother’s labour was thought to be stillborn – until he popped his persistent head up and with a little help like a sling under his belly held up by four zoo staff so he was able to drink milk from his mother until his legs got the hang of standing by himself. He is now a fun little animal and still getting into trouble and a recent news broadcast showed all the other  elephants  and the zoo staff rescuing him from a pond adventure. Baby  elephants  weigh around 100 kg but like all of us from time to time, they may need some help.

And so the lessons we learn from Mr Shuffles, who now has a proper name, are that we all, including our businesses, need both a helping hand and a good dose of persistence.

So why is this relevant?

Let me explain…

One of the best helping hands for most businesses is a simple and effective management system that identifies, then reduces risks, trains your staff to reduce errors, rework and missed opportunities and builds  in  feedback.

It gives you peace of mind and extra time.

It does not really matter which system you choose, environment, safety or quality because they all help your business. The best system is one that covers all these risks and is low paper but fully integrated.

The second  elephant  is the one we pretend is not  in   the   room  when we talk about systems.  In  the case of certified systems, the  elephant  is what to do about auditing.

I am the first to acknowledge that external auditing can be expensive, especially if you have an integrated system with several standards but there are things you can do.

• You may decide to only internally audit your system and this may be a sensible choice although is not as easy to get the real system benefits and improvement that an external audit helps with.

• You may decide to only audit one system but run all of them and if they are fully integrated, your external audit will help you keep them all up to speed so that you get the benefits at a lower cost.

• You can think carefully about which auditing body you want to use. I recommend smaller auditing bodies for small business because their costs are often lower – like $1,200 per day instead of $1,800 from some of the larger companies and some of them specialise  in  working with small business and understand you have simpler systems.

• If you need the highly recognised big company logos for your marketing, then your auditing fees are well worth it and much cheaper than many other forms of advert. Every business is different.

One very real benefit of an external audit is that tomorrow walks in the door and you have a deadline to keep your system up to scratch. You will get greater efficiency and reduced stress!

Just imagine not needing to deal with staff errors and what is even worse, covered up errors that come back to bite much worse than if they had admitted it up front.

Other benefits are access to tenders and large contracts and logos that help with your marketing.

I have been running audited systems since the late 1980s and it is simply the way I do business. It allows me to run effectively with minimal staff and I fully recommend you have an audited managed system.

Self Improvement And Motivation – Who Do You Think You Are?

The need for self improvement and motivation is often one of the big starting points in the whole business of “how to change your life”. But, before we go any further with the subject of self improvement and motivation, let’s pause and reflect for a moment.

What is really implied here?

Firstly that “I have a self”, and that this “self” that I have is incomplete, not fully functional, or in some way in need of improvement.

Secondly, that I need motivating to improve myself and change my life, and this is often because there is a part of me (or maybe several parts of me) that don’t actually want to see any “self improvement” and are actually quite happy with how things are right now thank you very much!

Let’s briefly deal with second point, why do you need help on how to motivate yourself? Why can’t you just decide to do something and then just do it? What’s stopping you?

There is an “elephant in the room”!

The internet is awash with “self-help” materials – articles, books and courses on “how to motivate yourself”. Endless advice, tips, tricks and lists of “self motivation tips”.

However in my view, and based on my own direct lived and observed experience, most of this completely misses the point.

Who and how do you think you are (and why)?

Let’s look a little more closely at the “self” bit of this business of self improvement and motivation.

If you were able to dedicate sufficient time to the enquiry of: “Who am I?” – or if you don’t have the time but are prepared to take the word of those who have pursued this enquiry – at least as a working hypothesis – what you would find is that ultimately there is no separate “I” in the sense of an ego as a “stand alone entity” that is distinct from everything and everyone else.

I have been down this line of enquiry myself – as a by product of some extremely testing situations that have persisted over many months and years – and it is quite scary (but ultimately liberating) to see all the layers of who “I” am peeled away.

So if I asked you right now: “Who are you?” What would immediately pop into your head: “mother of”, “wife of”, “ex-husband of”, “manager at”, “director of”, “free thinker”, “free spirit” etc?

The thing is, if you persist with this and look deep enough in your never ending quest to try to “find yourself” (does this sound familiar?) all you will find is a large amount of ideas about me, thoughts that I have, concepts, ideas and images of me – all the stuff that makes up “how I see myself” and that defines “my self image”.

At the crustacean rock bottom sea-bed level of your THINKING mind, what you will find is that there is nothing there except an “operating system” of largely automatically pre-programmed thoughts and responses that runs the bag of bones that we like to THINK of as “me”.

There is no thought based self to improve!

There is just a large bunch of software that we can upgrade, tweak and re-install!

As with any computing system it is very useful to have some degree of insight and understanding into how the hardware side of things functions, how the software runs and also some understanding of the operating environment.

Or to put it in more conventional language, it is helpful and resourceful to have cognitive insight and to become informed and educated about the processes and mechanisms of “how to change your life”, and to have access to some transformational tools and processes that can facilitate that change.

Living Room Lighting Tips

It has never been more important to choose the right living room lighting sources with care. Choosing a good lighting scheme can have a remarkably dramatic impact on your living room – it is just as important as how you choose to decorate it. Even the simplest lighting scheme can have a dramatic impact if well planned and thought out – it can make an area seem larger or ore defined. The same light bulb and lighting fixture can have little or tremendous impact on your living room’s décor Since this room is a room which will probably be used a lot for many different purposes such as reading, watching movies and television, and relaxing, selecting the right lighting sources plays a more critical part on how our family feels and will use the room.

A living room works best with layered lighting for its many uses throughout different times of the day. You can use ceiling-recessed lights to draw the eye to certain artwork, pictures or mirrors hanging on the walls in the room. You can then add table or floor lamps which will provide the direct lighting needed to read or work.

And don’t forget, that in most homes, natural light is the primary source of light during the day and a living room’s décor definitely needs to make the most out of using this light throughout the day. You can install skylights or dormer windows to increase the amount of natural lights that comes into the room. You can also use lighter curtains, blinds or shades on existing windows to allow the direct sunlight though to the room while keeping your privacy.

All in all, picking the correct living room lighting sources can make a huge difference in the room’s décor – making you feel comfortable, cozy and relaxed any time throughout the day. Sports-themed lamps and lighting fixtures are an excellent choice in decorating your living room. They will bring enjoyment, enthusiasm and illuminating light in a way for every fan to enjoy.

Motivating Your Team in a Tough Market

When the market tightens, the media spews doom and gloom and Consultants become discouraged, it may be a good time to try new strategies for motivating your team.

Traditionally, most sales teams and sport teams focus on causes of failure and try to improve weaknesses. As Sales Managers, Coaches and Trainers, we identify skill gaps and try to address them. We focus on what they are not doing well.

Well, there’s a new strategy in town! A strength-based approach to enhance motivation and teamwork. It turned the Sri Lankan Cricket Team into a world-series winning team by applying these two new processes prior to their April – July 2006 tour of England. And I thought you might like to know about it, as I think it’s exactly the right approach to use with sales teams in a tight market.

Appreciative Enquiry and Open Space Technology.

It’s all about moving from a team with a champion or two, to a champion team focused and motivated to soar. I attended a session with Dr Sandy Gordon FAPS, now based at UWA, Perth Australia who was the Sri Lankan team’s sport’s psychologist at the time. And it occurred to me that this would be a great approach for a sales team, bruised and battered by the economy.

The Appreciative Inquiry Process

AI is a positive, strengths-based operational approach to learning and development that seems to enhance and refocus Team Work. The AI Process asks questions as a group:

“What are we doing right?”

“When we are at our best, what are we doing well?’

“When we are at our best, what is our behaviour?”

“How do we make what’s working, happen more often?’

AI makes some assumptions from which this model operates:

– In every group something works

– What people focus on becomes their reality

– Reality is created in the moment and there are several realities

– The act of asking questions of a group influences the individual in some way

– People are more confident and comfortable in their journey to the future when they carry forward parts of the past

– If people carry parts of the past forward, those parts should be what is best about the past

– It is important to value differences

– The language people use creates their reality

Ultimately, it puts the attention on their goals by paying attention to the right things at the right times. It also helps identify what is out of your control but keeps your focus on the team vision.

So, how did they apply AI to the Sri Lankan team? And how can you use this for your sales team? AI took a five step process:

1) Discovery

Identifying the ‘best of what has been or what is’ and supporting their belief in a positive future

2) Dream

Creating a clear results-oriented vision in relation to the discovered potential and encouraging them to conceive images of possibilities.

3) Design

Creating possibility propositions of the newly express dream or vision and bringing the dream into focus

4) Destiny

Strengthening the affirmative capability of them and helping them recognise the dream in the present.

5) ‘Naming the Elephant’ in the room

Bringing ‘undiscussables’ into the open and having the ‘difficult conversations’. Let’s face it, every time you try to motivate your team, there will be ‘yes buts,’ as a barrier in their minds. Ask them if there’s any problems, the whole team will shake their heads, “No, can’t see any problems.” But guess what, the first thing they will talk about when out of the room are the very things you wanted them to talk about in the room.

This gives people an escape clause, a back door if you like. If they are not doing well because they are being annoyed by your DealMaker, frustrated at the lack of leads, have bought into the media story of the economy and no training will remove these perceived barriers.

But holding a confidential ‘Naming the Elephants’ facilitated by a professional, you will be able to name these Elephants. Naming the Elephant allows for identifying barriers and distractions, innovation and taking action. It allows the team to learn from each other, and teaches them not to attack or blame.

The rules are simple;

– Expect and respect different points of view

– Avoid trying to identify who wrote what

– Avoid naming names – if the ‘Elephant’ is a person, only describe his behaviour and its impact on the team.

Open Space Technology

As an Open Space Facilitator, I have seen the impact this new form of meeting has on the motivation, energy and passion of the participants. Open Space Technology is a meeting methodology which helps individuals and groups become more effective in work environments that are rapidly and constantly changing.

Open Space Technology releases the knowledge, experience and innovation in the organization which is not captured through less open processes, and applies them to specific complex issues.

Open Space works best when the work to be done is complex, the people and ideas involved are diverse, the passion for resolution (and potential for conflict) are high, and the time to get it done was yesterday.

What Will Happen?

We never know exactly what will happen when we open the space for people, but we can guarantee these results when any group gets into Open Space:

  1. All of the issues that are most important to the participants will be raised.
  2. All of the issues raised will be addressed by those participants most qualified and capable of getting something done on each of them.
  3. In a time as short as one or two days, all of the most important ideas, discussion, recommendations, conclusions, questions for further study and plans for immediate action will be documented in one comprehensive report.
  4. After an event, all of these results can be made available to an entire organization within days of the event, so the conversation can invite every stakeholder into implementation, right now.
  5. And results like these can be planned and implemented faster than any other kind of so-called “large group intervention”. It is literally possible to accomplish in days and weeks what some other approaches take months and years to do.

When the economy changes, what were once predictable cycles seem to extend well beyond what we have experienced before, you need new tools and new strategies to keep your team focused and motivated.

The end result for the Sri Lankan team? They said the meetings they held were the ‘best team meetings ever’. Sri Lanka subsequently drew the three Test series 1 – 1 and white washed England 5 – 0 in One Day Internationals, their best overseas tour performance in 25 years.

Unfortunately, a change of Management decided that these processes were a bit too non-traditional and went back to more familiar strategies.

What could these concepts do for your team? Do you have the courage to try something new?